Your Shell Grows with You: “I’m terrified of confronting authority and standing up for myself. I feel intense shame and guilt asking authority figures for help when I need it, because I always have this lingering feeling that my wants and needs are an inconvenience to other people and I should just not say anything at all, because other people are more deserving of their attention than I am. This anxiety makes functioning as an adult daunting, to say the least.”